Career lessons my first job taught me.

My first job was with one of the most known Unicorn start up in the country. I remember how I always dreamt of being a part of that company because of it’s culture, people and what not. Of course, I had all the reasons to be happy and celebrate but wait, as soon as the college got over, the real life started.The sudden change was insomuch that it took me pretty long to accept the situation.

A person who never woke up early and gazed netflix all night was turned into a lark within the first week. I remember travelling 3 hours a day, writing those early morning reports, answering those team leads, trying hard to fit into the system, going through mocks and trainings totally whacked me out.

I remember the first one week was a cribbing session for me. Life was suddenly made uneasy and stressful. Like anyone else, I disliked it too but now when I look back to what exactly did I learn, there’s so much. The learning and the experience computes to so much that it took me longer to figure out the predicament.

Mentioning few of my learning from my first job:

  • Uncomfortable is good- Startup life is never dull. During my tenure, I shuffled between 4 regional offices, 3 different products and let’s not even talk about my team leads getting changed every now and then. I remember how it was all getting nerve racking at first. I remember one of the national team challenges for which I worked day and night just to prove myself. End of the week, I won it, not just once but for 3 consecutive months and that’s exactly when I realised how it’s very easy to underestimate yourself. If I would have chosen the comfortable life by deciding to take part just for heck of it, life would have been typical but the real change and fun came after I took up the challenge and decided to push myself beyond the boundaries.Till the time you don’t try, you’d never know what you can really achieve.
  • No work is ever Small– Indra Nooyi, the CEO of PepsiCo started of as a receptionist in her dorm, Reed Hasting, CEO of Netflix, he worked a door-to-door salesman, selling vacuum cleaners and a lot of other famous people who started really small. Does anyone become a CEO or a leader just like that? It all takes time and the right attitude to learn. Accomplishment in such small tasks only gives you the courage to take up bigger projects.
  • Initiating Conversation; A good sign– Yes, you must start the conversation with the team and other people of the organisation unless you wish to sit alone in one corner of the room. If you really want to be friends with your colleague, make a good impression on your boss and make your work life a better place then you must communicate because speaking is as important as listening. The more you network, the easier it would be to fit within the system.
  • Never give up– There would be a lot of situations when you’d consider quitting because apparently you aren’t doing so well but before you conclude that, it’s better to recall why the company hired you? They definitely saw something in you which perhaps, they didn’t see the other 873626+ (a bit of an exaggeration there)candidates who appeared for this position. It’s always better to look for a solution to your problem than to conclude and accept your failures. “Never give up as great things take me”– A very conventional saying we’ve been hearing since our childhood holds true in this situations and our life, in general.
  • Feedback is good– Everyone within the organisation comes from a different background hence, the difference in their choices and opinions. Some would make faces at your work whereas, someone would welcome your ideas with the smile. I can still recall the time when I felt timid to speak freely in front of those I thought would spurn me out. One day, I tagged team with my senior who would ask me the same question post each meeting “What do you think worked and what didn’t?” I used to answer the question by giving 3 points of each. He would agree to most of them and make necessary changes during the next meeting. Soon enough, the feedback did wonders and that’s exactly when I realised how the saying- feedback can either make you bitter or better made so much sense.

Our first job is the beginning of our career, it’s not something we’ll be stuck in forever. During our first job, we learn so much about decision making, accountability and everything else that counts to make us a better professional. I believe persistence along with a positive attitude can really help us stay focused during the onerous time.

What did you learn during your first job? 🙂

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How to master the art of ignoring someone you love?

Before you read on and earn a PhD in the field of blessed ignorance, tell me if you’ve ever been in a situation where you wanted to ignore someone you feel oodles of fondness for? It can get quite complicated and painful, right?

First of all, we all have reasons to ignore that someone. It could be due to their behavior, a rough argument or mere rejection. And we don’t always need a reason, do we? Lack of attention can trigger it too; mostly that’s what happens in my case by the way.

If yes, then I feel you bro. It’s one of the most annoying feelings in the world. We have that person added on our social media and we need to ignore them, but sadly, Snapchat keeps us updated about their fun night with the squad, Instagram tells us about their late night fancy dinner date and WhatsApp keeps showing their status. And it’s not like you can shut them all. So, what are we supposed to do? We so want their attention, but due to our recent grudge, we can’t even text because well, ego and that sense of self-respect.

And while we keep overthinking, this social media keeps reminding us of them. We cannot delete them either, because it’ll be “too wanna be” and child-like. Plus, we always want the best of both worlds –get all updates and, at the same time, stay at peace.

Here are some tips to cast that spell of ignorance right.

Rule Number 1

Never Sound Needy

I know you love them and as they say, when it’s love nothing else should matter. You must explain things and even go an extra mile to fix things up, but if the person just doesn’t understand then may be it’s time to back off a little and stand your ground. No body should be taking you for granted, ever. Stick to this and don’t get carried away. No more running after them. Acceptance is key here.

Rule Number 2

Play it Cool, Online

If you really wish to ignore them on the Internet, there’re quick changes you can make in the settings. Starting with WhatsApp, put the chat in Archives (no opening it). For Facebook, un-follow them so their updates don’t appear on your timeline. On Snapchat just don’t click on their story or even better, remove them for a while, no one gets any notification anyway. This way you’ll have them added but at the same time, there won’t be much access to their updates, and trust me, this will only make your life easier.

Rule Number 3

Stay busy. Burn them, boy.

The best way to not think about someone is by keeping yourself busy. Go out with friends, work on yourself, read books, eat good things and make them jealous. Trust me, if they really care about you, they’ll be burning up inside when they see you have fun with other people (especially common friends) and not them. Slow clap to our double standards.

Rule Number 4

Take it Slow

Did he/she just text you? Don’t get excited. Wait a while, may be for few hours or even a day? Just don’t revert within a second. Show them you have other things on your mind too. At least we can pretend we have priorities. And don’t try to make conversation in the very first place. Act formal, no “What’s up?” but a “How are you?” Start using their name to make it sound more legit (Hi Rajnikanth!). And a tiny disclaimer, increase the usage of words like hmmm, no idea, ya and ok. Short, dry replies act like a bomb.

Rule Number 5

Stay Focused, Stay Strong

Perhaps everything about them is perfect but I am sure there would be something you never really appreciated about them. May be how they make those weird noises while eating or that weird obsession with poop jokes. Try to think about why you fought or whatever led you to behave in this manner. This will only help you to keep your will strong to ignore the lad.

Follow these tips for a few days and trust me they will come running to you. And when that happens, don’t shower all your love at once. Have a stiff, casual embrace and they’ll surely be yours forever because then they won’t take you for granted. There’ll be that fear of losing you. And if even after a few days they don’t realise your absence, then I am sure your existence didn’t matter much to them anyway. Either way, let’s move on!